Public service announcement
Jul. 8th, 2004 02:33 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kjpepperIf the icon isn't enough of a warning, perhaps the cut tag will be.
Newsflash. I'm not perfect. I'm a human being, and damn it, i have an inalienable right to flaws. I'm going to make a mistake every so often. Some of them minor. Some of them major.
What should you do about this?
Let me take responsibility (if it's indeed my fault), apologize (if warranted), and fix it (if possible).
What should you NOT do about this?
Deny me the opportunity to correct what went wrong (especially when it is well within my ability to do so) simply so you can continue to punish me for it. This is especially stupid when the fixing is easy and immediate. Even if it isn't, if the mistake has been acknowledged and reasonably atoned for, DO NOT KEEP BRINGING IT UP FOR DAYS/MONTHS ON END just so you can revel in your passive-aggressive need to be the victim/right in all things. And if it's something stupid, like me forgetting something, DO NOT paint the incident like I deliberately set out to hurt/undermine/mess with you and your agenda simply because I get off on such things when the reality is that you're actually upset about something that has nothing to do with what's currently going on. I do not have total recall, I am easily distracted. I know this, I am working on it. But I am going to occasionally forget things, especially when something major is going on in other departments in my life. Deal with that. And if it is something I can't fix, believe me, I am WELL aware of it. You do not need to take on the sacred duty of reminding me about it every single moment you possibly can. You especially don't need to make me feel like nothing I will ever do from that moment thereafter will be good enough for you.
Another thing. If I see something wrong and I'm sure I can fix it, don't crawl up my ass for not asking you first. Acknowledge that I at least tried to solve the problem, even if I fail. I'm sick and tired of being accused of meddling all the time, especially when I know that when shit goes right and I do manage to fix things and miraculously all is right and improved with the world, chances are you don't even notice. That said, and your tendency for worming your way up my intestinal tract without my consent acknowledged, think about that long and hard before pissing all over me for seeing something wrong and NOT correcting it. That's just as bad, if not worse.
I've had it with this trend in my life, I'm tired of people that think they have the right to take my shortcomings out of my soul while completely ignoring anything positive I've tried to do or have succeeded in doing. I'm tired of people marching to the summit of Mount Molehill just so they can plant their pathetic little flags. I'm tired of people rationalizing me as being deliberately evil or consciously choosing to screw up just so they can feel like they're taking the high road. And I'm REALLY tired of people that do all of the above without even a pretense of interest in what my side of the story is. There is an appalling number of them in my life right now, and they are massively souring my general opinion of humanity. If you feel you are one of these people, a) maybe you aren't, you never know, not everything's about you, you know, or b) don't even try to talk to me about it. Just STOP IT.
This has NOT been a good week, with several notable exceptions. I am down to a precious few nerves, and they are ALL stretched to snappage. Mostly through no fault of my own. Consider yourself warned, for the next person that decides it may be fun to mess with me may well get injured.
Newsflash. I'm not perfect. I'm a human being, and damn it, i have an inalienable right to flaws. I'm going to make a mistake every so often. Some of them minor. Some of them major.
What should you do about this?
Let me take responsibility (if it's indeed my fault), apologize (if warranted), and fix it (if possible).
What should you NOT do about this?
Deny me the opportunity to correct what went wrong (especially when it is well within my ability to do so) simply so you can continue to punish me for it. This is especially stupid when the fixing is easy and immediate. Even if it isn't, if the mistake has been acknowledged and reasonably atoned for, DO NOT KEEP BRINGING IT UP FOR DAYS/MONTHS ON END just so you can revel in your passive-aggressive need to be the victim/right in all things. And if it's something stupid, like me forgetting something, DO NOT paint the incident like I deliberately set out to hurt/undermine/mess with you and your agenda simply because I get off on such things when the reality is that you're actually upset about something that has nothing to do with what's currently going on. I do not have total recall, I am easily distracted. I know this, I am working on it. But I am going to occasionally forget things, especially when something major is going on in other departments in my life. Deal with that. And if it is something I can't fix, believe me, I am WELL aware of it. You do not need to take on the sacred duty of reminding me about it every single moment you possibly can. You especially don't need to make me feel like nothing I will ever do from that moment thereafter will be good enough for you.
Another thing. If I see something wrong and I'm sure I can fix it, don't crawl up my ass for not asking you first. Acknowledge that I at least tried to solve the problem, even if I fail. I'm sick and tired of being accused of meddling all the time, especially when I know that when shit goes right and I do manage to fix things and miraculously all is right and improved with the world, chances are you don't even notice. That said, and your tendency for worming your way up my intestinal tract without my consent acknowledged, think about that long and hard before pissing all over me for seeing something wrong and NOT correcting it. That's just as bad, if not worse.
I've had it with this trend in my life, I'm tired of people that think they have the right to take my shortcomings out of my soul while completely ignoring anything positive I've tried to do or have succeeded in doing. I'm tired of people marching to the summit of Mount Molehill just so they can plant their pathetic little flags. I'm tired of people rationalizing me as being deliberately evil or consciously choosing to screw up just so they can feel like they're taking the high road. And I'm REALLY tired of people that do all of the above without even a pretense of interest in what my side of the story is. There is an appalling number of them in my life right now, and they are massively souring my general opinion of humanity. If you feel you are one of these people, a) maybe you aren't, you never know, not everything's about you, you know, or b) don't even try to talk to me about it. Just STOP IT.
This has NOT been a good week, with several notable exceptions. I am down to a precious few nerves, and they are ALL stretched to snappage. Mostly through no fault of my own. Consider yourself warned, for the next person that decides it may be fun to mess with me may well get injured.
