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sooooo the next stop in how the geek can help with funeral stuff - I'm now in charge of the Mom collage, etc. Basically later today I have to run to Kinko's, and do some mad photoshopping. Luckily I know exactly what I want to do, so it should take too long, but man, am I hurting for the trappings of nerditude back home. Not to mention the broadband connection. Jeezopete, I don't remember dialup ever being this goddamn slow.

This morning I was emailing directions to the funeral to Dad's frat brothers. *facepalm* Yes, you read me right, Dad, who is pushing 80 quick fast and in a hurry, is still quite active in his chapter of Omega Psi Phi. Nothing like a bunch of doddery old men trying to recapture their youth. I can just imagine the step show. *snrrk* kinda waving around a little bit in walkers or somethin'.

I did have a little bit of a moment when I was standing in front of Mom's Yamaha concert grand in the front hallway of the house. Damn she loved that piano, she would have something cooking for hours in the kitchen and while she waited she would sit and play through showtunes, classical, gospel, popular stuff, country, and sing along with herself. That piano would reverberate all the way down the block, I swear, and all the way upstairs, but she sometimes would sit and play from 3 in the afternoon until 11 at night, her arthritis be damned. And she was so happy doing it too...

The sad part isn't really that she won't ever do that again, although that fact did have me quite teary earlier. The sad part is that no one else knows how to play piano. Except for me, and I'm severely out of practice and even if I was... I was never that good, you know? That's something I always kinda wish I'd kept up with. Now more than ever. It's so fucked up, I'd always joke about how I was probably going to wind up in charge of Mom's piano if/when she died, because I was the only one besides her that really gave a damn about it, not to mention could play something besides "Chopsticks" or "Heart and Soul." The reality of that joke is a wee bit more sobering. I don't think I even know where the key to open it is. Something to look for later.

curious - are you guys okay with me venting funeral stuff? or should I make a filter? Just wondering... I haven't bothered locking these, really, but... I do know how disconcerting reading about someone else dealing with a death is. Lemme know.

Date: 2004-10-26 11:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sundart.livejournal.com
*drops off one extra-large hug*

if you do make a filter, I wanna be on it.

Date: 2004-10-26 12:18 pm (UTC)
kshandra: A cross-stitch sampler in a gilt frame, plainly stating "FUCK CANCER" (Default)
From: [personal profile] kshandra
*squeeze*

What the Sunny one said.

Date: 2004-10-26 01:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] blueraccoon.livejournal.com
*hugs you tight*

repeat as needed.

Date: 2004-10-26 01:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sydneycat.livejournal.com
No need to filter from me. Hugs and I'll HUG you for real when you get back.

Date: 2004-10-26 01:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] austingoddess.livejournal.com
Absodamnlutely - vent away! Lesser souls can scroll past.

Date: 2004-10-26 03:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] morlock.livejournal.com
thats just...i'll say silly. cause stronger words aren't needed right now. if you want to vent then vent. there is *no* need to filter something unless *you* feel uncomfortable saying it. this is your journal, its your space, and we (the viewing public) are voyeurs into your life. if you say somethng or do something here that is upsetting, thats our fault for reading it. yes, we may get upset or something but screw that - if you want to say then say. if you want to yell then yell. fuck what other people may or may not want to see - if we're reading this, we either want to know whats going on, or we're just damn bored. neither case warrents you EVER having to care about how we feel about what you say.

filters are for privacy and nothing else. so there nyah.

Date: 2004-10-26 06:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nireena.livejournal.com
*hug*

and good gawd girl, if you can't talk about grieving in own journal, where else can you? it's nothing to be embarrassed about or to filter. if someone's not interested or if it upsets someone, let 'em skip the entry.

Date: 2004-10-26 10:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] inle-rah.livejournal.com
*hug* You should know by now that we are all here for you, babe.

And did I mention... *HUG*

Date: 2004-10-26 11:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] innostrantsa.livejournal.com
i hug you lots and lots and lots and lots and lots and am sending you all kinds of love.

i don't mind reading about your dealing with funeral preparations and death. write what you need to, write where you need to.

Date: 2004-10-27 02:02 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] peacockdress.livejournal.com
Ditto - more hugs from us - and on a selfish note, it's enormously helpful to see how someone else deals with a death in the family. I never did deal properly with the deaths of 3 grandparents, still don't know what I'm supposed to do, and my parents' deaths loom, admittedly in a couple decades' time if all goes to plan, filling me with dread. So I'm more than happy to read about how a generally positive and upbeat person deals with this stuff. Personally, I haven't a clue where to begin.

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